Tom and I started speaking more and more. He was becoming insistent on meeting but he wanted me to meet him in St. George. He said that would be closer than coming all the way to Roy. He said we could get a room in St. George together. I told him that I didn't think I could afford a seperate room. He said that that didn't matter that we could just share a room. I told him no that I couldn't do that because that wouldn't be proper. I explained that my ex-husband and I had been married and sealed in the Temple and that that meant something to me. He said that just because we shared a bed didn't mean it would lead to sex. I told him I jsut didn't think I could do that. I also told him that I just didn't feel comfortable doing that because my husband and I weren't divorce yet and that if I did something like that I would be no better than him because that was why we were divorcing - he had met someone else (without kids) and decided that being with her would be less complicated than being with someone who had older kids who really didn't like him at all (they really didn't). It was really hard dealing with the fact that he had cheated on me and I explained that to Tom.
Well, fortunately (or unfortunately) I didn't have to make that choice at that time to meet him because my cousin very unexpectedly passed away and I needed to stay here for the funeral.
I just couldn't understand why he would push me to meet him in a motel and share a room when he came from an upstanding LDS family and had served a mission.
I was about to find out though
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I am sorry for what you had to go through. Abusive relationships in whatever form are not okay. Glad you are finding some therapy in writing and as I have found way more people read your blog than comment so I am sure you will be able to "show the light" to someone in a bad relationship. You deserve better and I hope that you meet someone great who wants to be grandpa with you! :)
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